If you or someone you know is considering filing for a divorce, there are several scenarios where the court might misunderstand your situation and side in your former spouse’s favor. Of course, divorce isn’t about retribution or taking away from your former spouse. The ultimate goal is to amicably separate all assets and provide for your child’s future, based on their best interest. However, that doesn’t stop complications from arising.
In the modern age of internet and all things social media, it is important to remember that your online presence can affect the judge’s first impression of you during the divorce hearings. Divorce lawyers understand that Instagram posts, Facebook rants, and even Snapchat stories can be used against their clients in a divorce ruling. Here is a list of some of the top things to avoid from posting on social media during a divorce:
- Party photos with alcohol – Child custody might be the most contentious issue during the divorce, and the judge will not be thrilled to see parents partying. That isn’t to say you shouldn’t enjoy your new found freedom, but you should also take time to consider posting compromising photos of yourself with alcohol. The judge will decide who has physical custody and legal custody of the child after the divorce, and they may take your partying into consideration, especially if the child was in your care at the time.
- Using geotags at inappropriate locations – It’s a great feature to include in photos or checking in with your friends online, but this can be damaging to your child custody case. If you have custody of your child for the weekend, but your friends post a picture of you at a nice restaurant or bar with a few drinks, your former spouse may be curious as to why you would go out when you are so eager to see your child. The best approach is to tell your friends to ask you before they tag you in anything.
- Flaunting wealth – Attorneys on both sides of the divorce are going to be cross-examining the financial situation of the other spouse, and you should avoid posting expensive purchases or extravagant travels. The other lawyer may be able to use those posts to argue that you have underreported your income, and the judge may be inclined to agree. Law firms review all of the economic information concerning the other spouse to establish an independent financial assessment of both parties.
- Antagonistic posts with a new partner – It’s okay to be resentful towards your former spouse, but posts that elicit an angry, emotional response can be detrimental to the settlement process. The goal is to end the litigation as quickly and inexpensively as possible and avoid any unnecessarily painful moments. Emotional spouses, however, can be exceptionally difficult to negotiate with, especially if jealousy is a factor. The best advice is to keep your newfound love a social media secret and tell them to avoid posts about you. This includes something as simple as, “I am so happy to have met…”